As most of you remember when having your first child, everyone warns you of the terrible twos and how awful it is going to be. Well I never experienced that, my son turned two and he wasn’t a little demon like everyone told me he would be. He was sweet and cuddly and such a happy kid. Granted he had the occasional tantrum, but what kid doesn’t at that age they are trying to figure out how to express their emotions. Needless to say 2-3 years was probably my favorite age so far with my son.
Then he turned 5, and there was a new aspect to his personality (Attitude). For probably the last 3 to 4 months my little angel has turned into a walking attitude who constantly tries to push the envelope and see how far he can push me. Between the dirty looks, back talking, and telling me what he can and can’t do I feel like I could lose my cool. He has definitely been challenging me and challenging my authority.
I have had several talks with him about being respectful and how he needs to talk to his parents, and he loses privileges like games and the ipad when he pushes too far. But I have noticed recently that due to my frustration and my son pushing buttons I have become a yelling parent. Granted this is not the case all the time but I tend to lose my cool a lot easier than I ever used to, then I feel awful because that is not the type of parent I want to be.
So this week I am trying some new methods to avoid this, one is that sometimes mommy needs a time out and that’s ok. If you’re like me and you can feel the frustration building take a time out and calm down until you can talk with your child. I find with this works so much better, obviously who wants to be yelled at.
I am grateful overall my son is extremely well behaved, just this new found attitude tends to drive me up a wall.
So if you’re a new parent don’t always believe that twos are the hardest stage, just wait for the frustrating fives and don’t even get me started on the teenager that’s a whole other blog post.